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3 Mistakes Couples Make During A Divorce

24 June 2016 by Louise Boyd

You planned the wedding and celebrated with friends and family. You may have lived happily for a few years and even started a family. While these are common events in a marriage, relationships do not always end like fairy tales. Considering an estimated 40 to 50 percent of marriages end in divorce, you and your spouse may also need to dissolve the marriage. Divorce is stressful for many couples, so consider using this guide to avoid making a few common mistakes during the process.

Getting Legal Advice from Friends

Since the divorce rate is so high, you may have friends, family members, and co-workers who have also ended their marriage. These individuals may offer you advice and tips that were helpful to them and their case, but the information will most likely NOT pertain to you and your marriage.

These individuals may mean well, but their advice will be based on emotions that they felt during their own divorce. These emotions are not relevant to you and your marriage, so the advice will lead you down the wrong path.

Bad-Mouthing on Social Media and In Front of Children

In most cases, you and your spouse may be angry or hurt over the impending divorce. These feelings are normal, but you should not allow them to take over your brain.

You may feel the need to vent about the divorce or your future ex, but you should avoid posting your emotions on any of your social media accounts. No matter who or what is the cause of your divorce, your ex-spouse will see or hear about your posts and comments. This will lead to potential arguments that can prevent a successful and peaceful dissolution of the marriage.

Bad-mouthing your future ex-spouse in front of your children is also dangerous. Not only will this harm your children emotionally, but it can also lead to emotionally and financially overwhelming custody battles.

Skipping Mediation

Some couples are unable to dissolve a marriage peacefully, so the process will require numerous hours with your attorney and expensive court fees. Avoiding the long, expensive litigation process is possible, though, with mediation.

Mediation allows you and your future ex-spouse to work out contested items during the divorce with the help of a disinterested third party. Not only does this make the process of ending your marriage less stressful, but mediation is also 40 to 60 percent less expensive than going through litigation.

Divorce is not a pleasant experience, but it can be less challenging. With this guide, you will know what to avoid to make your divorce less overwhelming and expensive. For more information, consult with a divorce lawyer.

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